Soulmate : The Impulse

I strongly believe that there are people in this world, with whom we are supposed to be in relationship with. They are just like “made for each other” for us. In other words I call them “SOULMATES”.

On one fine evening I was talking about this with a friend. She was in a platonic relationship with one guy recently. She expressed that the guy moved on without intimating her leaving her strangled.

This conversation raised a question in my mind: “Why do one feel the compulsion to push his/her soul mate away?”

There might be multitudes of reasons to do so. A number of reasons instantly flashed through my mind. One by one I started to untangle my thought and tried to come to a conclusion. Finally I concluded that these might be the reasons why one feels like running away from his/her soulmate:

The impulse to push away comes naturally.

One of the most interesting aspect about soulmate relationship is sometimes they are the people we resist the most. We are supposed to embrace our soulmates with open arms, but often we end up running in the other direction.

Why? Because it’s fearsome to love someone so much! Soulmates come to our life naturally. We don’t choose them, our hearts do. Once our heart has chosen, it is not going to let go until you surrender to your love. But our mind is bound by our perception and social beliefs.  Our mind choses to fight against it. So it’s like a choice between mind and your heart.

We often get confused and seek advice of others.

Choosing a soulmate is not under our control. You may disagree with me, but it’s true. The war between our heart and mind leaves us frustrated. We often seek the advice of people we trust. Most people don’t know what they’re talking about when it comes to soulmates. They mostly became judgemental and try to assess your situation through their life experiences. And we get a ton of advice that tells us not to embrace this relationship.

A golden rule of thumb is: Not to take relationship advice from someone who doesn’t have a relationship you admire. Most of such advices focuses on two factors:

• This relationship isn’t giving you enough, so you should move on.
• This relationship makes you feel negative emotions, so you should move on.

Remember! It’s not our choice to move on! We can’t simply stop loving someone by outsmarting our heart using our mind. Life doesn’t work like that. It is going to leave us incomplete, sad and insensitive.

Relationships are not about getting; they’re about giving. People will say that “He is not doing this, so you should move on.” Great!!! Why not explore what we aren’t doing? We might get all the answer without looking for the shortcomings of our partner.

And finally people will say that this relation gives you negative emotions which may hamper your personal growth. But that’s what relationship is all about! It’s about having strong emotional experiences that brings out the negativity in us. These emotions indicates where we have space to grow. We overcome these negative feelings and come out full and complete. This is evolution. That’s what soulmates are for, to complete us.

This emotional discomfort in a soulmate relationship is the means for our spiritual growth. The sooner we accept this fact, the more fulfilled we are going to be.

Running away from our soulmates neither make them go away nor turn off our heart! If this person is our soul mate, our hearts will remain connected forever. By accepting our soul mates, we start the ultimate journey of our life… A life that contains the most powerful sentiments, passions, twists and turns, insight and harmony. Trust me, this is what we really want out of our life… this is what it means to be alive.